Shiva. Or if you aren’t Jewish, mourning after death. I think we can all empathize or feel sympathy for anyone who has lost someone. It’s not an easy topic to talk about so we’ll be gentle.
Regardless of religion, background, age, gender or location, we can all identify with that awful sense of loss. And it doesn’t matter if it’s expected or not, too soon or not soon enough, it’s never easy.
I remember the first time I lost a relative. I was young and didn’t really quite understand what was happening except that I couldn’t see my Grandma anymore. As I grew older, death came more into focus and so did the pain of passing friends and loved ones. Occasionally it’s been for the best – be it from age, pain or illness – too often it hasn’t. I’ve sought solace and comfort in my own ways as I’m sure you have, but I think we can agree: Knowing we aren’t alone in those difficult moments makes all the difference.
For me, that support has been announced by a hug from my brother, a thoughtful phone call from a co-worker, and once even a slumber party complete with my two best friends, DVDs, pajamas with feet and a few too many bottles of wine. Each one so special and significant in their own ways, but all of them arrived at the exact right moment when I needed them.
And of course, I’ve tried to return the favor for those in my life. Homemade cookies, a letter, a look, a laugh. We all need different things during times of grief and mourning, but hopefully we’re all surrounded by love.
We hope that during your periods of Shiva or mourning, that you are supported and loved. If we can be a part of your day, we’d be honored. Many of our condolence gift baskets are Kosher and since flowers are often not brought to Shiva, make an appropriate and tasteful gift alternative.